The Autopilot Approach To Wanting A Guy To Miss You And Keep Investing

If you want men to keep investing, wonder what you’re doing, and to always initiate dates, you must adopt this mindset. It will change everything about power dynamics and how a man will court you.

In this article, I will go over the male psychology and a two-step approach you can easily enforce to ensure he’s wondering what you’re up to.

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First, We Must Understand Men’s Goals

I always tell my clients that men invest in you to peel back the curtain to get a sneak peek into your mind. You have to react to it. You have to adapt yourself based on what he’s doing. You have to scold or reward him.

The problem many women have is that they don’t know how to properly “reward” or “scold” a guy. Women either do too little or too much. This is because you’re basing it on two factors:

• Your feelings for him.

• Your feelings about the situationship (I want to progress it, don’t want it to end, I want to get it back to what it was, etc).

A better way to look at it is that we don’t want to scold or reward him. Instead, we want to look at it as a pace.

• Is it going at a pace we want?

• If it is or isn’t, why not? What can we do about it?

A wise man who likes you would be consistent with his investment and progress it forward through communication, initiating dates, etc. This is good. We want this. There isn’t a problem. However, many men know this and will sometimes move very fast. This is called “lovebombing.”

An example of this would be on a second date, you’re already talking about deleting the apps. Why is this lovebombing? Because no normal person would invest all their eggs into one basket and make such an exclusive claim off meeting someone for the second time.

The goal of this post is to get men to miss you, think about you, and never lovebomb you. How do we do that?

The Autopilot Approach

There are two things I want you to do:

• Not matter what he does, do it less and make sure he does it first (more on this).

• Have a life of your own.

Let’s go over what these mean:

This is the perfect balance because you reward a man by asking him to see him, and you never do more work than he does. If he wants to progress things and wants you to reach out, that’s fine, as long as he does it first. As time passes and you have dates under your belt, there is nothing wrong with changing the ratios to 60/40, and once you’re in a relationship, it’s more 50/50.

As for having a life of your own, men love women who are busy but make time for them. This still works to your advantage, though because it means:

• You don’t have to answer him immediately.

• You condition him to know that you “want” him but don’t “need” him.

• It will create context in a way where you can’t come off needy or clingy because you have your own shit going on.

I have seen that when women don’t have their own lives, they seek their validation through a man’s actions. It’s not pretty. It pushes men away and becomes more dramatic as time goes by.

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