How To Tell If A Guy Is Interested Long-Term Or Wasting Your Time

Words I Like: “A guy who truly likes you won’t put himself in a position to lose you.”

I truly do believe figuring out a man’s interest is as simple as that. Men who want you long-term will not introduce risk inside the relationship. They will not do anything to make a woman second-guess him and think she’s dodging a bullet.

Yet, many times he does. Why? Well, there are two reasons:

• He’s not interested long-term.

• You give him variables (liking him more than he likes you or putting up with his bs for example) that show him he can get away with bullshit without losing you.

Why does it matter if he doesn’t like me? Why would he care about losing me?

Because it’s not you he’s worried about losing. It’s the assets you offer:

• Sex

• Validation

• Attention

• Filling a void

• Someone to hang with

• An insurance policy 

• and so on.

He’s in a good position where he can have his cake and eat it too by getting assets from you, and while not being in a relationship. Men want to keep that but at a good “price.” This means if he can cut back on effort and resources to invest elsewhere, he will.

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So what are the clear signs he’s not interested?

Pretty much anything you’d consider “mixed signals” or hot and cold behavior:

• Low effort

• Not planning dates or taking you out and staying in.

• Sexually focused or centered.

• Prefers last-minute hangouts.

• Stagnant connection.

• Keeps you separate.

• Avoids deeper conversations.

• Vague or noncommittal language.

• Inconsistent and convenient for him.

Obviously, an interested guy will be the opposite of this: Consistent, taking you on dates, planning things, trying to get to know you, threading your lives together, etc.

IF A MAN IS SHOWING YOU GOOD AND BAD SIGNS, THAT’S A BAD SIGN IN ITSELF!

To go even further on what it would look like based on what he wants, I created four different graphs. One for each thing a man wants:

• Short-term

• Steady Casual

• Long-term

• Ego/Validation

If you’re confused on why this guy straightens out when wanting a relationship, it’s because these type of relationships tend to transition into something that is more routine and sustainable for the long-term. For example, you can have first dates every week lol.

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