I get this question all the time: “Should I keep him on social media or should I unfollow him?”

This is a valid question and in this email, I am going to break down the reasons why I would and wouldn’t unfollow someone.

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Let’s jump in.

First Thing You Need To Understand

The first thing I tell my clients to understand is why you feel the need to delete him in the first place. That is, why is he pulling the bullshit that makes you question having him on any social media.

It comes down to two reasons:

• He doesn’t want the same thing as you do therefore, he doesn’t care about the outcome as much as you. Otherwise, why would he do it?

• He feels too comfortable and powerful in your situationship that he can do whatever he wants and believes you’re not going anywhere.

This means if you’re getting mixed signals (which aren’t really mixed you just apply emotions to them thinking they’re mixed) and feel that he’s taking you for granted, I am leaning toward unfollowing him.

You must understand that it’s weird keeping someone on social media who is pulling this crap. It makes him feel that you’re not going anywhere, that he has you, you’re hopeful so you stick around, and you’re willing to endure what’s going on because you’re not ready to move on.

If that’s the case, you have to break that cycle. 

This means cut it off and delete him if:

• You tried to fix it and voiced your concern but nothing has changed.

• This has been going on for a while.

• You feel it’s intentional.

• It’s driving you crazy.

In contrast of these reasons, I wouldn’t delete him yet if you:

• Didn’t voice your concerns

• It’s the first time it's happening

• You’re unsure what’s going on (please don’t be dumb. Don’t gaslight yourself and have a bias. If you’re trying to get answers and not getting them, that’s an answer).

I feel keeping a guy on social media will do more harm than good. None of this, “Oh he needs to see me though to regret things I’ll just post having fun.” That doesn’t work. Or “But he won’t miss me. Out of sight out of mind.” No wonder you’re in this situation, you have no backbone.

If you don’t respect and value your own time, why will they?

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