5 Compliments You Can Give A Man That Trick Him Into Investing More

As a dating coach of over 10 years, I have mastered the art of attraction. Yes — I can build attraction and get people to invest more through phrases, actions, and other variables.

In this brief but informative post, I will explain the power of compliments and how they can get a man to do pretty much anything as long as a little attraction is already involved.

I will teach you five compliments that will get a guy to invest heavily in you and keep it that way!

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You MUST Have These In Place First!

Before giving you the five compliments, I want to list several things that need to be present for these to work. It’s a simple list, but essential to mention:

• You must NOT be doing this to get a guy back or to get a guy to invest in the first place. If he’s already pulling away, the attraction is dissipating, and there is no reason for him to care for the compliment you’re giving him.

• Riding off the first point, there must be some attraction already there. It doesn’t have to be much, but it's something you both can build on.

• This is best used in the beginning (first month of dating) as it’s a framing technique. It’s better to mention early on what you like so you frame it in a way that he doesn’t want to change it, versus a frame already in place that will be hard to change. I will explain framing and use examples in the article.

Okay, let’s jump into them!

“I love how reliable you are.”

I am a huge believer that masculine energy is about three things. It’s:

• Providing

• Protecting

• Satisfing

If a woman finds a handsome man who does these three things, he has it in the bag. The hard part is finding it lol. I know, you’d think it’d be easy but men aren’t men anymore.

There are two reasons this compliment is powerful:

• You establish the frame (a belief you have that you want him to believe) that you think he’s reliable. If he now knows that you think he’s reliable, he will try harder to keep that trait and invest in doing so.

• Men love feeling masculine. They love hearing it from the woman they’re trying to win over/court even more.

This means you can say any of the masculine traits as a compliment and it will work:

• “I love how reliable (provide) you are.”

• I love it when you hold me. It makes me feel safe (protect).”

• “You always know what I like (satisfy).”

Works like a charm.

“You sure know how to court a woman. Men seem to be lost these days.”

There is a saying I used all the time when I was coaching:

I can not stress enough how true this is. If you’re telling him he’s doing a good job courting you and other men suck, he’s going to continue courting you to avoid being categorized with those shitty men.

Men have no problem putting the work in if they know there is a payoff. They’re much more hesitant when the stakes are high and the success rate is low (Besides sports, it’s more of the thrill). That is why women who play hard to get rarely win. It’s easier to replace that woman than to overly invest.

The reason for this is that we are risk-avoidant creatures.

Why do you think so many men have approach anxiety and rarely walk up to women? It’s so bad that there are dating coaches for men who focus strictly on the “cold approach.”

If a man knew there was no risk in approaching you, they’d all approach and succeed. So when you tell a man he’s amazing at courting you and that other men suck, he now has that advantage over other men and wants to keep that advantage.

“You know what I love about you? Your integrity (or any trait). You always do what you’re going to say.”

It’s essential always to point out a trait that you like in someone. There are two reasons for this:

• It’s authentic. If you like it, why not reward them and tell them what you love about them?

• You anchor this person’s identity to this trait which helps them identify with it better. This causes them to be more like that trait.

A great example of this is the correlation between calling someone beautiful and them being confident. If someone with amazing parents, teachers, friends, peers, and significant others always told them they’re amazing and beautiful, they have no reason to think they’re amazing and beautiful.

Of course, there are always outliers where you can tell someone this stuff and they still don’t believe you due to extreme self-esteem issues, but for a majority of people, our brain is very evidence-based.

The way the brain works is through adaptation. That’s how we were able to survive as long as we did. It takes in information, analyzes that information, and spits out a new gameplan.

If you’re someone who takes care of themselves, is accomplished, makes goals and reaches them, and so on, these variables will strengthen the connection between the trait and the belief system of that trait.

A great example of this in my life is my dating introverted and chill women. I am a huge introvert. I tell women that straight from the get-go. If she tries to validate herself by saying, “I am introverted too/I can be chill,” I know what to do next (not in a manipulative way. There is nothing wrong with her saying this). Then, when we hangout and do something chill, I compliment her:

“See, I like this about you. I love relaxing with someone of good company, where we can just chill. Thank you for this.”

People love validation. Give it to them. Especially if you care about them and they’re doing everything right.

“You have the most amazing eyes.”

Do you want to build a connection? Don’t tell a guy, “I love building a connection” or “I love our chemistry.”

Men hear that way too much because every woman tells a guy how much she wants to get to know them. Just like it turns you off when men are purely physical, it turns men off when women focus strictly on rapport and getting to know each other.

Women do not like when I say this but all the data with attraction backs up what I am telling you: Rapport comes later on. Early on should be fun, light, playful, flirty, and lots of laughing.

That’s why I feel the most amazing compliment you can give a guy is a physical one with some merit in building a connection.

When you tell a man he has amazing eyes, he will open up more. We always do. We look deeper into your eyes, lean forward, listen, and are satisfied with the slight validation you gave us that we’re not trying any tricks to gain more. We’re more in the present and willing to open up.

“It’s nice to meet a man who is so selfless.”

In the frame of dating, a man who gets complimented on being selfless means several things:

• Your needs are being met

• He’s courting you

• He’s doing something right

• He’s putting you before himself

It probably doesn’t matter what it is, you’d take any of these points. It goes back to framing:

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